Event Recap: Be Your Best Self

I want to say a big thank you to everyone who came to our event last night. The information is a step by step system that will lead you out of the status quo and into your potential. I hope you left feeling that anything is possible and that you, and only you, are in charge of yourself and your outcomes! Wow,  powerful stuff. As I always say, “Once you know, you know. Then life is entirely up to you”. That is the scary bit. No matter how busy you are, or how overwhelmed you feel, remember to take a breath and create some white space in your daily routine, enjoy the moment, and waste your time wisely!

If you didn’t get the chance to come to this event, the following is a brief summary on all the info we covered in the talk. There was a lot of info, so I don’t want to overwhelm you!

How many of you can confidently say you know who you are? We often get stuck in the status-quo and come to accept certain aspects about ourselves. Basically, we get stuck and lose the belief that we can change.  It’s difficult to imagine beyond the limitations we set for ourselves. You need to be able to think bigger, more expansively.

Stuck in a rut, can’t get out, don’t know who you, are or who you want to be? If any of these resonated with you then the following exercise may help you discover your potential. Sit down quietly and write about your perfect day as if anything was possible. Never just reach for the stars. There is a whole universe of possibility out there!

Beginning this exercise can be difficult, but give yourself plenty of time. It took me three weeks to complete. It’s hard because you have to think outside your own experience. When I sat down to do it, I began with the color of the room, the size of the room, what my day looked like. I asked myself questions like “how did I travel?”, “who did I talk to?”, “what did I eat?” etc. and slowly over three weeks a life emerged. A life I wanted to be a part of. It was such an exciting moment to realize who I was, what my standards were, and where I truly wanted to go.

You’ll be able to recognize the kind of job you wish for, the house you’ll live in, the state or country you’ll live in, even the kind of relationship you’ll have.

To fast track this process simply ask yourself the following 3 questions.

  • What do I hope for?
  • What do I need to do to get that?
  • What am I doing about it?

 These are big questions so take your time and really think about it.

 In order to make a change, you first need to be able to visualize it. A friend of mine often talked about wanting to live in Paris, but she wasn’t doing anything about it. So, I convinced her to think about these questions. She asked herself what she needed to do to be able to live in Paris. She asked herself these three questions, and with the realization of what she had to do, she is now living her dream in Paris.

Once you have that overall picture of the way you want your life to be, you can start working towards that vision through daily goals. And if you time box those goals you’ll be more likely to achieve them. Keep in mind is that life isn’t a straight line. You’ll run into ups and downs, and curves left and right. Whatever you do, don’t let these moments discourage you. Instead, remember that those bumps along the way won’t hold you back if you don’t let them.

Having a positive attitude is what will help you achieve anything. Believe that you can do it, be your own best friend. Train your mind to focus on the positive aspects of life. You will soon begin to automatically look for the good in the world. This is why I don’t always suggest journaling. You have to feel it, you need to change your subconscious, and journaling won’t always do that for you.

As you go, you’ll need to reflect on your progress. You’ll have to be honest with yourself. Like I said, this path isn’t a straight line, and it’s okay to make mistakes, but you also need to be able to admit to them and take responsibility. Having this daily reflection will help you make additional decisions and plans with power and intention. Each action creates a ripple effect, so if you want something to happen, make the first step. By staying positive you’ll learn to enjoy the moment. You’ll learn to value your journey rather than just focusing on your future. There’s no pot of gold at the end of your life.

Create white space each and everyday for yourself. While it’s important to meet your goals every day, it’s also important to set aside time every day to disconnect. This is the time when you’ll get to know yourself. I like to do this first thing in the morning, to set myself up for the day. Don’t look at your phone, don’t turn on the TV, don’t check your email, disconnect! Shut out the noise and be still, be quiet, and listen to your inner voice. It’s okay and important to have free time. But waste that time wisely. Get out into nature, work on yourself, work on your goals, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

There are a lot of obstacles that could be preventing you from living the life you want. You just need to start making the necessary changes to get through them. Take a look at your job, or your career, is it what you want to be doing with your life? Take a look at where you live, does the area bring you joy and support your goals? Now consider your relationships, whether it be a lover or a friend, and ask yourself these questions:

  • Do they inspire you?
  • Do they lift you up?
  • Do you like the decisions they make?
  • Are they living the life you want to live?
  • Do they support your goals?

If you want to be successful, you need to surround yourself with positive, encouraging energy. There’s only so much that your own positivity and motivation can achieve when everyone else around you is telling you you can’t do it.

Look at life the way a child does: Fearless, full of opportunity, excitement, and wonderment. Stay curious and inquisitive and stay hungry for knowledge. Read, listen to podcasts and TED talks, and challenge your perceptions. Make an effort every day to be the best you that you can be. That includes working towards the life that you want, as well as the kind of person you want to be. You need that white space to be able to reflect, grow, and trust yourself. And surround yourself with the people who encourage your goals, as well as work towards their own goals as well.

By following these steps, and making a commitment to yourself, you can achieve anything. Look around you, everything started with a thought. You can live the life you’ve always dreamed of, you can be the person you’ve always wanted to be. Start with a single action. If you want to start running, put one shoe one. Regardless of the obstacles you face, stay positive, and encourage yourself along the way. Be your own best friend. Remember to reflect, grow and learn from your mistakes, and know that every bump is just a part of your path. Disconnect, and enjoy the journey.